Every one has their own reasons for staying in a relationship... Everyone has their own reason to love... Has their own reasons in staying in love and loosing their love... I have my fair share of broken relationships. I have failed and fell flat of my face but in spite of all the heartaches, the humiliation and the disappointments. I still believe that love is a wonderful thing and that it is the most powerful thing in the world. It could turn mountains in to dust and can turn even the ugliest thing in the world in to something beautiful.
In a world where failed relationships and marriage is no longer new but has become a part of life already it is nice to see old couples still in love with each other even how much trials they have overcome.
My Auntie Aurora(breast cancer survivor) and Uncle Alfred(who was also a survivor and spent months in ICU but recovered) has been married for 36 years old. They are already 72 years old and still in love.
I have admired their relationship for years and they are like a beacon of hope for me. They are a living proof that a relationship and marriage could last. I apologize for the long introduction it's just that i am really moved by their love and devotion for each other.
I did not ask them directly about how they manage to make their love lasts and why they are still together but this is what I've observed:
- Submission - One of the couple should submit his or her self to their partner. This avoid conflicts or discussion since there cannot be two masters in a relationship. In their case my Auntie submits to what my Uncle wants. She still have a say on the decisions of course but she gives importance to what my Uncle wants. If they both agree on a decision then they do it. But the good thing is that my Uncle listen to what my Aunt tells him and adjusts if he thinks that what she is saying is also okay.
- Acceptance - The couple should accept their partner as a whole. You cannot be in a relationship if you're mission in life is to change your partner or expect him or her to change for you. You have to love everything their good traits and their bad traits. They both accept each other for everything they have.
- Support - You must always support your partner. In some relationship their partner is the number one detractor or their number one enemy. You must not speak ill comment against each other especially with close friends and relatives. Most common cause of a failure of a relationship is because of the people around you especially if you listen to what others say about your partner. You must always have their back even if you don't sometimes agree with them. Your role as a partner is to be their "go to person". If ever my Uncle says something offending my Aunt would always explain that my Uncle is a good person and that he just cares for us and giving his honest opinion.
- Appreciation - You should always appreciate what your partner has done for you instead of thinking what he or she had done wrong or their shortcomings. They both never stop saying thank you and showing gratitude to each other even for the simplest and smallest things.
- Priority - Your priority should always be your partner. My Aunt has a already have a weak knees but she will let my uncle sit first instead of her. And my Uncle has a problem with his eyes but he will still try to do things for my Aunt or when eating he will say to my Aunt "Darling don't worry about me you eat already. I can't eat if your not beside me."
- Dedication -You should dedicate your self to loving and serving your partner. My Aunt has dedicated herself on taking care of my uncle without complaints and my Uncle has dedicated himself in loving my Aunt.
- Courtship - This should never stop even though you see each other day and night or even how many years you are together. My Uncle always tell my Aunt how beautiful she is or sings to her. She would ask us to buy things for my Aunt or do things for her because she likes it. She will always find a way to make my Aunt feel special. My uncle even made this compilation of their pictures together with quotes of love and relationship as a dedication for my auntie. He did this even he has difficulty seeing things. And there are even some pictures that she cut out a picture of my aunt and join it with his pictures because he always wants their picture to be together.
- Humor - They have a sense of humor. They always try to make each other laugh or happy. When you are with them you will feel that they are really happy together.
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